You Ask - Experts Answer - Musical Sprouts

Thanks to VicHealth Gender Equality Through Arts initiative, the Musical Sprouts are teaming up with early childhood development professionals to create a show in 2020 that sparks gender conversations amongst families and plants the empathy seed in children. To help us with our research, we are inviting parents to share their parenting questions with us. We’ll then take what the experts say and put it to music…or do a little interpretive dance. You get answers, we get inspiration. Deal?

Got a question about your child? Ask our team.

How do I help my child…

…COPE WHEN THINGS DON’T GO HER WAY
QUESTION: My 5 yo daughter often comes home from kinder, play dates or family gatherings and is upset about something that has happened with another child “he shouted at me” “she snatched it from me” “she wouldn’t listen to me” etc. She is sometimes really upset about it, and will often bring an incident up many times over the following days. She even remembers stuff that happened years ago. How do I help her to have self respect and set boundaries around behaviour from others that she will/won’t accept while also fostering forgiveness & understanding?

…UNDERSTAND WHEN KINDNESS IS REQUIRED
QUESTION: My 5 yo daughter often comes home from kinder, play dates or family gatherings and is upset about something that has happened with another child “he shouted at me” “she snatched it from me” “she wouldn’t listen to me” etc. She is sometimes really upset about it, and will often bring an incident up many times over the following days. She even remembers stuff that happened years ago. How do I help her to have self respect and set boundaries around behaviour from others that she will/won’t accept while also fostering forgiveness & understanding?

…WITH SHYNESS IN FRONT OF HER PEERS
QUESTION: I’d like to ask about my daughters’ voice projection (age 5). I had a chat with her yesterday about her shyness. We realised that when she is asked a question, her mind goes blank. When speaking at school, she says she ‘can’t’ use a big voice. I can really relate to what she is saying, I was like that as a kid and still can be at times. I guess I have 2 questions there:
How can we help her when her mind goes blank when asked a question ?
How can we encourage her to project her voice?